Completing the past

Today people of all walks of life are becoming more and more aware of the impact on their Here and Now their past has. The question how to free oneself from the shadows and burdens of one’s past is the beginning of an opening for a profound possibility: the possibility to let go of the past.

One’s past lives in one’s memory. It has nothing to do with the present moment. Technically a human being should be free to call on the past when wanted or needed and otherwise the past should be dormant like a laptop in hibernation. But we all know by our own experience that this is unfortunately not the case. Our past seems to have its own life and spills into our Here and Now unasked and often at the most undesired moments. We are having a magical moment with another, and whoops a memory fragment of our past with an ex or with our mother or father squeezes itself into space between me and the other. As if that alone already wouldn’t be enough irritation, no, the memory fragment carries emotions that we are now forced to feel (again). Of course one reacts to this intrusion with attempts of trying to kick this unwanted visitor out of the precious space of this Here and Now, but as we all know, these past memories seem to have their own stubborn agenda. Now the mess is really annoying. Instead of being fully present and available to the other, one is externally present and internally busy with managing the undesirable images and emotions of one’s past.